Sacred Marriage- Week 2

I know many of you have told me you have bought this book and are going through it! But,I will continue to post for those of you who don't have it! I am using words straight out of his book so you are getting an exact summary!

A Prayer To Remember

Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Ephesians 5:1-2

"Where is the bridge that leads a woman to stop defining a man by what he is and start defining him by what he is not?"

The author of this book attends many seminars and does post and pre-marrital counseling. He finds it amazing that when he asks a woman before she is married to tell him about her future husband she boasts about how wonderful he is and how great he is about so many things. Then, when he asks a woman who has been married for a while the same question, he gets a much different response: he doesn't do this, he never does that, etc....

What changes things is marriage. We pour all our hopes and dreams into a REAL relationship that is not a cartoon. Each day brings new disappointment because we all married sinners. We soon stop seeing what attracted us, and start seeing what disappoints us.

Every day millions of couples wake up and ask themselves "Am I happier today than I was yesterday?" But there is something much greater we should be focused on: "We are called to love our spouses like nobody else ever will. We are called to be the one person so devoted to their overall good that we are committed to be there on their behalf, regardless of any disappointments or faults, so that on the day we die, while our spouse may well remember the bad habits we had, they will also say my husband/wife loved me like I've never been loved and I can't imagine ever being loved like that again. Thats when you know you have true success in your relationships.

So instead of waking up and asking yourself "Am I happier today than yesterday" how about praying "Lord, how can I love my spouse today like he/she has never been or ever will be loved?" This is a prayer God loves to answer! He delights in loving his children and he searches the earth to find people who are willing to fill this quest. Just imagine how your marriage might change if eveyday before your spouse returned from work you prayed "Lord, how can I love them today like they have never been loved?" The answer may be very practical: take over a chore, speak a word of encouragement...

When we focus on what we can do, it's amazing how little time we have left to become consumed by our disappointments.

Henry & his Great Grandpa

When I was in Oklahoma, I took Henry to see his Great Grandpa! Before we got there, we went by my old house where I was born and grew up. We got there and it was gone. We asked some neighbors and they said that it had burnt down a while back. I don't know why, but it was really sad. This is the picture I got. All you can see is the old cellar door covered in snow. That was all that was left. We use to slide down this door when it would ice over :) Its crazy to think about....

Then we went to Grandpa's house and the first thing he did was take Henry into his room to show him where he keeps all his pictures :)

They had so much fun!

My grandma went with us...its crazy but this is actually my mom's mom, and my dad's dad :)

This was really special. Grandpa use to draw smiley faces on our hands every time we were over. He got to draw one for Henry and he loved it!

aquarium ><>

So its been a while since the last blog. Brian is spending the month in Houston for a review course so have been with our family in OK! It will take me a few blogs to post it all!

We took Henry to the aquarium and he loved it! It was on a week day so we pretty much had the place to ourselves!

He got a little scared when the sharks would go by!

more pics to come!......